Give it up or add it to the schedule?

On this, the first day of Lent for many-a-Christian, and probably the third month of broken New Years promises once again, I find myself asking a question. Is it better to give something up, as most people do, or to promise to do something? Of course, most people give up something trivial for Lent, such as their twice-a-week soda or once-a-week fast food fix. Who does that help? Does that really make you a good observer of your faith? Unless someone gives up an important, memorable fix (smoking, meat, their daily caffeine shop purchase so they can save up for whatnot), it doesn't really make you happier, healthier, or a better person.

But giving up something has a fine line - NO! Can I have that candy bar? No! Can I bite my nails? No! On the other hand, when you promise to do something, there's that little hitch of remembering. I promise to go to the gym three times a week... but I had to run the kids to PSR and the college hoops tournament is on tv so I'll go another night. I promise to keep my desk organized... or at least more than it was, for inspection twice a week.

Both options take dedication and perseverance, but which will show my dedication to my faith (or willpower) and make me a better person? I don't smoke, don't drink coffee, don't curse, and other than an instance here and there, I wouldn't notice if I cut out sweets or soda. Water is my daily drink of choice and besides the lazy fast food run, I try to eat healthy. I'm not addicted to internet games or my cell phone, and although I do find myself wasting time of them, it wouldn't hurt me if I wasn't on them - it might hurt my work to lose phone communication though, so that's not an option. I could benefit by losing a few pounds but after working 45 hour weeks, I have yet to find the right time to go to the gym. So what's a girl to do? What brings me the most joy? Spending time with Dick, Baby Girl, and family. Not giving them up.

I think my resolution will be to cut out shopping and fattening fast food. Of course, groceries and essentials are not included in there. But I think my bank account and waistline would both benefit from a reduction of non-essential purchases. I'm not necessarily a shopaholic, but I do enjoy a trip to the mall or a stroll across internet shopping sites. And, if I can throw in a little gym time instead, I'm sure my body won't complain.